Garden Dilemmas, Delights & Discoveries, Ask Mary Stone, New Jersey Garden blog
Mature Dove Tree (Davidia involucrata) in full leaf during summer after a spring freeze prevented flowering.

The Gift of Noticing: A Dove Tree That Didn’t Bloom

At Marty Carson's celebration of life, a Dove Tree that didn't bloom, a gardener's family, and an unexpected silver spoon offered a touching reminder that gardens teach us to notice beauty, kindness, and one another.
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Patrick McDuffee leading a tour through the formal herb garden at Well-Sweep Herb Farm.

Love, Lovage & Treasures at Well-Sweep Farm

A visit to Well-Sweep Herb Farm leads to unexpected discoveries, from towering lovage and herbal treasures to a poignant reminder of friendship, healing, and the lessons nature offers when we slow down long enough to listen.
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Mimi holding pots of red and yellow zinnias purchased for her foundation garden in Hope, New Jersey.

Lessons from Spiderwort and Crooked Trees

What began as a garden tune-up for a dear client became a wrestling match with Spiderwort—and a lesson about purpose, resilience, and life's winding paths. Our conversation and a song about a crooked tree revealed that what seems out of place today may have a purpose we cannot yet see
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Fresh spring leaves and a yellow flower drifting together in moving water symbolize connection, belonging, and life's journey.

Growing Belonging in the Garden of Life

While revising her book proposal inspired by The Lesson of the Leaf, Mary Stone discovers an unexpected truth woven through years of writing, gardening, and observing nature. The deepest lesson may not be about healing loneliness and loss—but about remembering that we belong.
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Bitter melon vine growing in a greenhouse, one of several unusual vegetables discovered during a spring greenhouse visit.

Leave Room for Wandering: Unexpected Greenhouse Treasures

Leave room for wandering. What began as a trip to purchase annuals became a treasure hunt filled with unusual vegetables, greenhouse discoveries, practical planting tips, and a reminder that some of life's greatest treasures are found beyond what we originally came looking for.
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Mary Stone standing back-to-back with her Little Buddy beside a lake at Comfort Zone Camp.

Healing Beneath the Mayapple

A weekend at Comfort Zone Camp reveals healing beneath the Mayapple: the wisdom of the magical plant, reflections on loss, kindness, nature, and the courage of brave children healing from a loss of a family member to suicide.
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Native skunk cabbage flowers emerging through melting snow in early spring.

Skunk Cabbage Appeal

Skunk cabbage may not win any beauty contests (though I feel its beautiful), but this remarkable native wetland plant offers one of nature's earliest signs of spring. From melting snow with its own warmth to feeding emerging pollinators, skunk cabbage reminds us that beauty, resilienc
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Large edible rhubarb growing in a mulched garden bed

Rhubarb Edible vs. Ornamental— Kindness Helps Heal

From the difference between edible rhubarb and ornamental rhubarb, from blooming tea to rhubarb custard pie, Mary Stone reflects on friendship, healing, and the beautiful ways kindness helps us grow through difficult seasons of life.
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shade garden stone path moss lawn alternative woodland garden

What a Changing Garden Teaches

Sometimes what we see as a problem is merely a message. A visit to a longtime client’s garden reveals lessons in declining plants, thriving moss, and how working with nature—not against it—can lead to something even more beautiful.
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Weeping cherry tree in full pink bloom against a blue sky in a residential garden

When a Weeping Cherry “Bleeds”: What Lies Beneath

A weeping cherry tree begins to "bleed," revealing a deeper story about soil, stress, and what lies beneath—and a reminder from the garden about where we're truly meant to grow.
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