Garden Dilemmas, Delights & Discoveries, Ask Mary Stone, New Jersey Garden blog
Towering baobab tree with a massive pale trunk surrounded by lush tropical foliage at Fairchild Tropical Botanic Garden near Miami, Florida.

Meeting the Tree of Life

A family visit to Fairchild Tropical Botanic Garden brings a long-awaited encounter with a magnificent baobab, known as the Tree of Life. Along with rainbow eucalyptus, tropical butterflies, and memories of Mom, Mary discovers how the seeds we nurture can shape our Garden of Life.
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Historic JC 81 railroad milepost beside the wooded Paulinskill Valley Trail and Paulins Kill

Finding Our Way Again Along the Paulins Kill

A walk along the Paulinskill Valley Trail brings railroad history, memories of the Paulina Dam, and lessons about restoration, resilience, and finding our way again.
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Pulled mile-a-minute weed spread on a sunny driveway beside a garden cart, with Jolee nearby.

Tending What We Can in the Garden of Life

Mile-a-minute and Japanese stilt grass have taken hold in parts of my woodland, while heavy rains unexpectedly cleared the duckweed from my pond. Amid the weeds, ferns, an old stone wall, and Blackberry Lilies offer a reminder: We aren't meant to tend everything at once.
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Heart-shaped fallen leaf covered with raindrops among autumn oak leaves

Another Lesson from the Leaf: Help Is on the Way

Life has a way of testing the very lessons we've grown to believe. A leaf in the wind brings another lesson about acceptance, letting go, love, and trusting that help is on its way.
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A modest summer garden harvest with green beans, one cherry tomato, and Malabar spinach leaves.

Doing Nothing and Everything: Wisdom from Nature & Gardens

What if doing nothing is actually one of the most important things we can do? A modest vegetable harvest, one perfect cherry tomato, birdwatching, and peaceful moments in the garden remind Mary Stone that slowing down often reveals life's greatest gifts.
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Front foundation garden with pink roses, boxwood hedge, and layered landscape plantings.

Beneath the Surface: The Mystery of the Missing Rose Roots

A healthy rose suddenly became loose in the soil, revealing a mystery beneath the mulch. What first appeared to be chipmunk damage led to an unexpected culprit, solutions for protecting treasured plants, and a reminder that gardens—and life—often invite us to look beneath the surface.
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Antique silver spoon engraved with the name Mary resting on a houseplant.

What We Carry Forward in the Garden of Life

From a Victorian berry spoon and a treasured letter to a friend's citizenship oath, reflections on belonging, gratitude, and the stories we carry forward in the Garden of Life.
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Mature Dove Tree (Davidia involucrata) in full leaf during summer after a spring freeze prevented flowering.

The Gift of Noticing: A Dove Tree That Didn’t Bloom

At Marty Carson's celebration of life, a Dove Tree that didn't bloom, a gardener's family, and an unexpected silver spoon offered a touching reminder that gardens teach us to notice beauty, kindness, and one another.
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Mimi holding pots of red and yellow zinnias purchased for her foundation garden in Hope, New Jersey.

Lessons from Spiderwort and Crooked Trees

What began as a garden tune-up for a dear client became a wrestling match with Spiderwort—and a lesson about purpose, resilience, and life's winding paths. Our conversation and a song about a crooked tree revealed that what seems out of place today may have a purpose we cannot yet see
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Fresh spring leaves and a yellow flower drifting together in moving water symbolize connection, belonging, and life's journey.

Growing Belonging in the Garden of Life

While revising her book proposal inspired by The Lesson of the Leaf, Mary Stone discovers an unexpected truth woven through years of writing, gardening, and observing nature. The deepest lesson may not be about healing loneliness and loss—but about remembering that we belong.
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