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In memory of Brother Bill

Luv u Brobber Bill

My beloved Brother Bill (“Brobber Bill”) passed away on December 21st. I was blessed to be able to travel to Florida to be by his side his last weeks.  Several overnights in the hospital and hospice and heartfelt pillow talks will be forever cherished as will he – a brave, soulful man, by far advanced to most of us in terms of spiritual development.  “You graduated from here” I assured him.    In truth the 6 months since his emergency trip to the ER on Father’s Day and diagnosis of Appendix Cancer with no prior symptoms has been a blur for me; a time to resonate for him. All that he has studied “is coming together” he reflected, “It’s all about love.”

If I may tell one of Bill’s lessons he shared as I gathered the courage to end the merry-go-round of my marriage; a very difficult time in my life.   It was Election Day and I drove from an attorney appointment to Town Hall to vote.  Out of the blue Bill called from his track phone – his affordable choice for a cell phone.  Never before had he called in the middle of a workday but he felt my energy and sadness.  He also didn’t know the details of the marriage struggle until that day.

Bill asked if I had water nearby. He had never visited me here and didn’t know about the brook in front of the house.  He suggested I go to the brook and find a leaf.  Watch it maneuver through the current… slowly, beautifully, serenely.  You see, none of us really have control of the current… a parallel to the ebbs and flows in our lives.  Our goal is to let go, to Trust Him and live calmly, serenely rather than resist the flow… like the leaf in the water.

I’ve observed hundreds of leaves since.  Thank you my beloved Brother Bill… You will be with all that love you forevermore…

Haiku For You 7 of 81

Bill’s treasured Haiku; the lesson of the leaf and love of sharing his passion of Tai Chi.



Mary Stone, owner of Stone Associates Landscape Design & Consulting. As a Landscape Designer, I am grateful for the joy of helping others beautify their surroundings which often leads to sharing encouragement and life experiences. These relationships inspired my weekly column published in THE PRESS, 'Garden Dilemmas? Ask Mary', began in 2012. I dream of growing the evolving community of readers into an interactive forum to share encouragement and support in Garden and Personal Recoveries - seeking nature’s inspirations, stimulating growth, weeding undesirables, embracing the unexpected. Thank you for visiting! Mary

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