Garden Dilemmas, Delights & Discoveries, Ask Mary Stone, New Jersey Garden blog
A modest summer garden harvest with green beans, one cherry tomato, and Malabar spinach leaves.

Doing Nothing and Everything: Wisdom from Nature & Gardens

What if doing nothing is actually one of the most important things we can do? A modest vegetable harvest, one perfect cherry tomato, birdwatching, and peaceful moments in the garden remind Mary Stone that slowing down often reveals life's greatest gifts.
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Front foundation garden with pink roses, boxwood hedge, and layered landscape plantings.

Beneath the Surface: The Mystery of the Missing Rose Roots

A healthy rose suddenly became loose in the soil, revealing a mystery beneath the mulch. What first appeared to be chipmunk damage led to an unexpected culprit, solutions for protecting treasured plants, and a reminder that gardens—and life—often invite us to look beneath the surface.
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Bitter melon vine growing in a greenhouse, one of several unusual vegetables discovered during a spring greenhouse visit.

Leave Room for Wandering: Unexpected Greenhouse Treasures

Leave room for wandering. What began as a trip to purchase annuals became a treasure hunt filled with unusual vegetables, greenhouse discoveries, practical planting tips, and a reminder that some of life's greatest treasures are found beyond what we originally came looking for.
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Large edible rhubarb growing in a mulched garden bed

Rhubarb Edible vs. Ornamental— Kindness Helps Heal

From the difference between edible rhubarb and ornamental rhubarb, from blooming tea to rhubarb custard pie, Mary Stone reflects on friendship, healing, and the beautiful ways kindness helps us grow through difficult seasons of life.
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What a Changing Garden Teaches

Sometimes what we see as a problem is merely a message. A visit to a longtime client’s garden reveals lessons in declining plants, thriving moss, and how working with nature—not against it—can lead to something even more beautiful.
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Layered perennial garden with stone steps and colorful flowering plants surrounding a backyard landscape.

Leaf Mold vs. Mulch & the Lesson of Letting Go

As spring unfolds, I reflect on what remains, what falls away, and what—over time—returns to nourish us again. In this post, we explore leaf mold vs. mulch in the garden, along with a simple lesson in letting go inspired by nature’s cycles.
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dog helping with early spring garden cleanup moving leaves on tarp

Early Spring Tending: What to Keep, What to Clear

As winter loosens its grip, early spring invites us to tend—clearing what’s too heavy, redistributing what can nourish, and making space for what’s ready to grow.
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orange, yellow, and purple flowering plants populate Dennis Briede's meadow.

Native vs. Invasive Plants: Who Decides What Belongs?

What does “native” really mean — and who decides? A visit to Pittsburgh’s Point State Park, reflections on urban ecosystems, and even the humble stink bug reveal surprising lessons about biodiversity, adaptation, and belonging in our ever-changing garden of life.
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Slide titled “Attracting Beneficials with Flowers – Pollen & Nectar” showing a monarch butterfly feeding among yellow and orange wildflowers.

Inviting Beneficial Garden Guests

Do hard winters really curb “bad bugs”? A reader’s question opens the door to a deeper conversation about beneficial insects, plant diversity, and why harmony — not eradication — is the key to resilient gardens and balanced lives.
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Red barns and tall silos reflected in calm winter pond water create a peaceful rural landscape of symmetry, stillness, and quiet seasonal beauty.

Reflections in the Garden of Life

In winter’s stillness, reflections reveal what shadows alone cannot. From mirrored ponds to garden design and the quiet wisdom of roots beneath the soil, this post explores how nature teaches us about healing, self-awareness, and the promise of spring in the garden of life.
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